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Hayley Dunlop's avatar

I have so much to say about all of this!!! But will have to come back to it another time. But yes yes yes to all of it.

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Lucy Nichol's avatar

It’s kind of comforting to know other people feel the same way

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Nina's avatar

I can relate to being bullied in numerous workplaces, despite having lots of friends and being a kind person! I do stand up for things, and I'm not a 'yes' person. I question things.

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Lucy Nichol's avatar

I think that sometimes causes problems and it absolutely shouldn’t. I question everything and I do think I stand up for myself and others - but it marks you out - sometimes in good ways - sometimes in a negative light as we have both experienced. So sorry you’ve been through it too. Sending hugs x

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Charlie Brigden's avatar

Solidarity - much of this applies to me too, especially when I was in the workplace for a company who had no idea how to deal with mental health, and there were several times when behaviour was inappropriate towards me, but shrugged off because there was "no intent". As you know, my anxiety is still super high, and I constantly second guess myself. But I'm with you.

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Lucy Nichol's avatar

That’s the thing with bad behaviour / bullying - you don’t actually have to prove intent as such - just to show that it was having a detrimental effect on you. But until you’ve been through a complaint etc you just don’t know these things…

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Andy Oliver's avatar

I so identify with this, like you lots of people think I am confident and happy in social situations. I am in fact totally crippled by them, I have always been this way and I think a large part of why I am an alcoholic is tied to trying to be comfortable when with people.

Even though now I am well into my 15th year sober, that anxiety is still there. I find any situation incredibly hard to cope with. Even meeting up with friends I’ve known for a long time can have me crippled by anxiety. I worry about how I will cope through an evening and after every encounter I overthink what happened. Did I talk too much, why did I say this think, they will think I am stupid.

So refreshing to read your journey and you write so eloquently about your experience, you ever thought about taking up this writing malarkey! Xx

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Lucy Nichol's avatar

15 years is amazing work! But I agree - sometimes with the friends that you’ve known the longest and mean the most you can still panic! X

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